When you start taking care of yourself, you start feeling better, you start looking better, and you even start to attract better.
Do you ever notice how things are going great, the Universe answers everything you’re asking and you feel on top of the world. So you stop? You start slowing down on the things that made you feel good in the first place. It’s a prime example of self sabotage and everyone I know does it. With my personality, it multiplies. I rave about feeling, looking and doing so well that I slow down on what made me feel that way. I start rushing and dreading my meditation or I skip a day of journaling. For example; I go weeks without writing, even though it makes me feel alive and purposeful. Then you begin to feel crappy again and your mind starts reeling. “This isn’t working for me” or “this is too much work, I can’t do this for the rest of my life”. Then you’re almost back to square one. Almost, because this time around you are not starting from scratch, you are starting from experience. It’s the same story for most people who start at the gym. It’s a staggered start; you go for a week then forget about it for a few weeks. A new month begins and you go for a bit longer but stop because it’s the holidays and you have family to visit. Until one day it just sticks. That one single day changed your life. That’s the day you wanted to stay home but drove to the gym, sat in the parking lot for twenty minutes then did the gym bag wobble to the entrance. Now, you don’t think twice about whether you feel like going, because you don’t allow anything to get in your way of what makes you feel your best.
Our brains are not wired to make us feel good, they are solely there for survival and protection. When we focus on what makes us feel amazing; like sitting in meditation instead of running around checking things off the to-do list our brain will fight us. When we put stress on our body in the form of exercise, our brain will reject it. As soon as we allow our brain to be satisfied with where we are, we give in to self sabotage. It’s a part of re-wiring our brains and therefore our thinking patterns. We know what is best for our bodies and that there is more to life than just surviving. Next time you feel content with where you are, do yourself a favour and do something you know you have to do to feel even better.
“We accept the love we think we deserve”. - Stephen Chbosky.
Self love is the most powerful thing we hold in our control. With self love we excel in every aspect of our lives from the spouses we attract, the amount of money we charge for our services and the food we put in our body. When we love ourselves, things just work. We are in the receiving mode of the Universe which allows us to feel good and attract other things that will continue to help us feel good. How do you know if you’re full of self love or just in the appearance of accepting yourself? Begin by taking a look at your surroundings. Do you find yourself in a loving, healthy relationship? If you’re not in a relationship, are you desperately searching for one or feel like a part of you is missing when you’re alone? When we have self love we attract others that love and treat us with respect, or we are content with being by ourselves until we cross paths with one who does.
How about the career you’re in? Everyone lives by the phrase “nobody likes their job”. False, there are millions of people in the world that wake up everyday and love what they do for eight to twelve or even two hours a day. If you’re unhappy at your job, complain about it all day and aren’t looking for something new and fulfilling then you are not loving yourself. If you own a business, how much time and effort are you putting into it? If you find that you’re dreading it or things aren’t taking off as fast as you had hoped you have two options to push forward. Set up a time block everyday and dedicate it purely working on your business, this gives your brain no choice but to focus on something you love. You can also take a step back and ensure that they key services that you are providing are not only fulfilling for your client but for yourself as well. Don’t start a business for someone else. Lastly, how are you fuelling yourself? The food that we choose to put in our body can heavily impact how we feel about ourselves. You have read my rants about processed foods and how they impact our mental health. If you rummage through your kitchen, and you have a higher ratio of processed and packaged foods in your pantry than you do of fresh produce in your fridge, do a kitchen overhaul. Self love includes putting nutritious, healthy food into our body so we can feel, look and perform our best. In no way do I mean cut out all foods you enjoy, it’s a simple as the 80/20 rule. Treat your body with love and it will love you back.
It’s an everyday battle with myself to make the correct choices that I know will help me feel my best. Even knowing everything I do, I still revert to old eating and thinking patterns that in turn, only keep me from being my best. Your daily habits reflect your life. They reflect your future, next time you’re doing something ask yourself “is this helping or hindering me from the life I want?”. Then wait for the answer; your body already knows what to do just allow yourself to do it.
Two steps forward and one step back is still one step forward. Start celebrating how far you have come and your life will be shot like an arrow in the direction you desire.
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